Let love be genuine; hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good; love one another with mutual affection; outdo one another in showing honor.
“You may not remember the time you let me go first.
Or the time you dropped back to tell me it wasn’t that far to go.
Or the time you waited at the crossroads for me to catch up.
You may not remember any of those, but I do and this is what I have to say to you:
Today, no matter what it takes,
we ride home together.”
On Sunday, January 17, 2016 I got to publicly share my love and my vows with this wonderful guy. There is SO much to write and reflect on that day and I promise to do just that soon.
For now, I wanted to document our vows-so I can remember what it is I promised, but also so I can remember what he promised to me. It was such a special moment for both of us. The hundreds of people around us disappeared in that moment and it was just us. I’m so thankful for that. So-if you’re interested, here are the vows we shared and wrote and read.
Marion’s vows to me:
On this day, I give to you, in the presence of God, my family, and all these witnesses, my promise to love you, hold you and honor you,
I will respect you, encourage you and cherish you,
In sickness and in health,
Through sorrow and success,
For all the days of my life
I pledge to be your loving husband. To talk and to listen, to trust you and appreciate your uniqueness, to respect and honor you, and to support, comfort, and strengthen you through life’s joys and sorrows.
I take you to be my wife, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know, I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the woman you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.
I enter this marriage with you, knowing that it’s not about us remaining the same people, but following the path of change together, hand in hand.
I vow to have the patience that love demands, to speak when I should, but also stay silent when that is what’s needed.
I look forward to a future where we share everything, building our relationship and serving each other. When you fall, I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy.
Under the guidance of God, I join myself to you. You are the hair spray, I am the gel, and together, we make crunchy hair.
I thank you for being so good to me, sacrificing so much and being so patient. You know me better than anyone else in the world and somehow still you manage to love me, and I will try in every way to be worthy of your love.
So today, I, Marion, take you, Irene, to be my wife, knowing in my heart that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love.
And my vows to Marion:
Marion, anyone who has known me for a long time knows how much of a cheesy romantic I have been, pretty much my whole life. I could blame Disney movies, but my friends know I would probably be like this even without them. I just believe so much in love and believe everyone should have it and experience it…and I sought after it and kept seeking it even when it failed miserably. I was always willing to put myself out there …eventually even on a dating app where I would just swipe a screen after seeing just a picture of a handsome man with smiling eyes, and it would change my life. It is also probably the least romantic way to meet ever, but I think that’s just how God works with me sometimes. Never as I expect or hope, but always better.
I used to hate it when people told me “you just know” because that made no sense to me and still honestly doesn’t. But the truth is, from our first message exchange to our first conversation to our first date, I just knew. And since then, you have made me feel more loved than I ever thought possible. It’s not been without bumps, but I love how we recover together, and I feel secure that we will walk this life together as best as we can.
So today, on our wedding day, I am honored to tell you in front of all of these people who love us, that I love you and I want to share the rest of my life with you. I take you,
and I choose you, Marion, to be my husband. I promise to stand by you and support you as best as I can. I promise to let you have wife-free time to just be with the guys or whatever. I promise to take care of you when you’re sick, but still make you go to work when you are faking. I promise to pray for us and to keep God in the midst of our relationship. And I promise before God and these witnesses to be your loving and faithful wife. I vow not to just grow old together, but to grow together. I promise to laugh with you in good times and struggle alongside you in bad times…for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for all the days of my life. I love you. Thank you for loving me.